Have we already forgotten about Afghanistan?

Seven months after the Taliban took power in Afghanistan, there’s not much news published any longer. Of course, the past month, most has been about the war in Ukraine. That is understandable, but we must not forget that there are still crises going on elsewhere at the same time.

The situation in Afghanistan is still severe, even if humanitarian agencies have managed to distribute enough aid to avert famine and starvation. The winter is now coming to an end, but nearly 20 million Afghans have received aid during the last six months. Without rapid change of the system, it means time is bought for now, but the crisis will return next winter.

The situation for women is worse than ever, since they have not been allowed to return to work since he Taliban came back in power. The exception is teachers and health staff, but even if they are allowed to work, they are not paid. Previously women were even denied begging, just because they are women (see hrw report)

In families where the main, or sole, breadwinner is a woman, it causes huge problems of feeding their families. On top it is hard to access cash, even for those who has savings. The limit of weekly cash withdrawals is very severe, and inflation is high.

Fayzabad, Afghanistan, November 26th, 2008 – Two Afghan Woman in Burkas.
2021: The return of the burka.
Photo: istockphoto.com

Taliban has also revoked the freedom of movement of women. They are no longer allowed outside their home without mahram, which means male escort. Even going to a health clinic for women, to be treated by a female doctor, needs a male escort, because to register requires interaction with a man at the “reception desk”, and he refuses to speak to women directly.

“A former medical student accompanied her pregnant sister-in-law to the doctor. “The Taliban didn’t let us enter the clinic because we didn’t have a mahram,” she said, adding that the appointment was with a female doctor and the clinic was segregated by gender inside. To enter the facility, however, they had to register and receive a card and the person handling this process was a man. Taliban rules prohibited him from interacting with women, and only permitted him to speak with their mahram. The women were forced to call the interviewee’s brother, who arrived an hour later, to register them. “They don’t even have mercy on pregnant women, let alone others,” the student said. “This is so humiliating.”

Taliban has also forbidden taxi drivers to pick up women travelling alone. This makes it impossible to escape a violent husband. Not that the women have any place to take refuge, since Taliban has also closed down all shelters for women, in addition to close down Ministry for Women’s Affairs. In its place they reinstated the Ministry for the Propagation of Virtue and Prevention of Vice. This ministry is known from the last period of Taliban rule to be extremely severe in their pursuit and punishment of women who do not behave according to their standards.  

When they came to power in August 2021, the Taliban spokesperson Zabiullah Mujahid said that “our sisters, our men have the same rights”, but it was soon enough clear that this is certainly not the case. The fear of reprisals if not modestly enough dressed, has also forced most women back into the burka, when they have to leave their house.

Recently secondary schools for girls were said to open again, just to be closed again the same day. Since Taliban came back, girls are only allowed to attend school up to 6th grade.

An empty classroom illustrating the closed girls’ schools.
Photo: unsplash.com

Education is vital for a country’s development, and as of current only 43% of the Afghan population is literate. That is an improvement, but it still means that 57% are illiterate. This is not likely to improve in the near future, with a government who is more interested in religious education than literacy and science. It seems like it is more important to the Taliban that people can recite the Koran, and know the “proper way of dress and behaviour”, than give them a proper education.

Already several ministries are closed due to a lack of qualified people, as those who were qualified have fled the country or stay away out of fear for reprisals.

This is a sure way to keep Afghanistan a poor and backwards country, with no prospect of developing any time soon. It also means the population is doomed for poverty, joblessness and a constant struggle of feeding their families. It also means that the conditions for girls and women will not improve in the near future.

Taliban is trying to brand themselves more “modern” towards the outside world, but we shall not be fooled by their attempts at doing so. Inside Afghanistan they have imposed strict rules on journalism, and it is forbidden to say anything “contrary to Islam” or that “insult national figures”.

So far about 40% of the Afghan media sources have shut down, and the latest is that local channels are ordered not to broadcast content for international partners, which all in all drastically limit the accessibility to news.

It is important that we do not forget about Afghanistan and the poor situation for its inhabitants, especially the women and children. The Taliban needs to be pressured by the outside world to grant all its inhabitants their human rights, freedom of movement and free speech, and their barbaric methods of punishment must be stopped immediately.

Featured image: Wanman Uthmaniyyah, unsplash.com

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Trying to piece it together…

Three weeks into the war in Ukraine it seems hard to predict the outcome, except for the fact that Ukraine will be left in ruins. What we all hope for is that the Ukrainians will get out of this war as a free and democratic country. And perhaps it should be added that a lot of us also hope for the fall of Putin as a consequence of his totally unjustified attack on Ukraine.

What we do already see the contours of, is a new approach in the West towards securing their own energy supplies, to be able to get out of the Russian grip. We have also been reminded of how vulnerable we are as Ukraine and Russia are the leading suppliers of wheat, sunflower seeds, gas and ingredients for making fertilizer. The war, in addition to the recent pandemic, has already caused shortages, and experts warn of even higher prices of food as farmers all over the world will face shortages of fertilizer, resulting in less productivity and thereby higher prices. The higher prices of food, fuel and electricity are already duly noted by consumers everywhere.

The question now is, how are we going to meet the challenges we are facing? For sure, not being dependent of oil and gas from Russia is a good start. Will it be a push to the green shift, or not? It has also become evident that supply chains can be highly unreliable, and so it has sparked a debate about self-sufficiency in some countries, like in Norway.

High food prices is of great concern all over the world. For the middle class, they might be able to re-prioritise their spending, e.g. cut down on “luxury” spending like vacations, new furniture, and new cars. For the poorer segment of society, it will add to their hardship. They do not have much to spend in the first place. Increased prices on both energy, fuel and food will hit them very hard. What will the various governments do to ease their strain? Because if nothing is done, there will be a risk of violent protests, like the Yellow Vest movement we saw in France only a few years ago, or the Egyptian revolution in 2011.

The Ukrainians are fighting for their sovereignty, freedom and democracy. Values that the West seems to take for granted, even though we have had a couple of reminders over the past few years that we should not. What happened in USA during the time Trump was president, and what happened after the 2020 elections should be carefully noted. Poland has also been moving in a less democratic direction lately, as have Viktor Orban’s Hungary. In France extreme right-wing candidates are ranking high on the polls before the upcoming elections this April. Perhaps Putin’s war in Ukraine will help undermine them, as we are now reminded of what extremism and despotism look like.

The Russian people are obviously asking themselves these days if they are heading back to the way of life they experienced in the Soviet Union. No freedom of speech, no Western import goods, restricted travel, high inflation etc. In other words, is Putin about to pull a new iron curtain between Russia and the West?

The young generation of Russians have grown up with access to everything we have in the West. Will they accept going backwards? Is there any chance they will be able to change the direction their country is about to take? Considering the massive protests against the war it certainly looks like they will not let themselves be oppressed without fight. Others are simply leaving their country.

Most European countries have decided to expand their military spending, in addition to seek solutions to an acute energy deficiency. They have also been very a wide consent regarding the sanctions against Russia, and what is at stake in a broader view. Democracy in itself is threatened. How are we going to cope with that?

Frankly speaking, I have more questions than answers these days. The latest news is that Putin has laid out his demands for peace, but the details are not yet known, adding to my list of questions.  

Whatever happens over the next weeks, the world will not be the same as it was before February 24, 2022.

Den internasjonale kvinnedagen 2022

Dagen er her, den internasjonale kvinnedagen 2022. Noe fremgang har det vært det siste året, abort er legalisert i Colombia, Mexico og San Marino. Samtykkelov, som definerer sex uten samtykke som voldtekt, er innført i en rekke europesike land, blant dem Danmark, Sverige og Island. Andre land vurderer også oppdatering på utdaterte lover som gjelder voldtekt. Disse landene er Finland, Nederland, Spania og Sveits. I 2021 bestemte omsider norske politikere seg for at Norge også skal få en samtykkelov. For et land som hevder å være best i klassen på likestilling, var det på høy tid!

Dessverre er det sånn at selv om det har vært fremgang på enkelte områder, så har det gått i revers på andre. Etter to år med pandemi har andelen jenter under utdannelse gått kraftig ned. Vold i hjemmet har økt, noe som først og fremst rammer kvinner og barn.

Tilgangen til helsetjenerster for kvinner, spesielt angående reproduktiv helse og abort har mange steder fallt helt bort, og er blitt sterkt redusert andre steder.

Etter Talibans overtakelse av Afghanistan, har jenter over 12 år mistet retten til å gå på skole, kvinner har mistet retten til å arbeide, og kvinner får ikke reise med offentlig trasport uten å være i følge med en mann. Tjue års kamp for kvinners rettigheter i Afghanistan, alt som var oppnådd, ble blåst bort over natten da Vesten lot Taliban få komme tilbake til makten.

I Etiopia brukes seksualisert vold, spesielt mot kvinner, som et våpen i krigen. Både etiopiske og eritreiske soldater er skyldige i voldtekter og andre seksuelle forbrytelser mot kvinner i landet.

I USA har abortmotstanderne vunnet stadig mer terreng, og ingen har kunnet unngå å få med seg at staten Texas har innført tilnærmet totalforbud mot abort. I juni 2020 kommer abortspørsmålet opp for høyesterett i USA, og tilgangen til trygg og lovlig abort står dermed i fare i hele USA.

Krigen i Ukraina viser oss nok en gang hva en humanitær katastrofe innebærer for kvinner og barn. Denne krigen føyer seg inn i den sørgelig rekken av land hvor befolkningen allerede lider, som I Jemen, Afghanistan, Etiopia, Myanmar, Syria…

Kvinnekampen handler om så mye mer enn likelønn og fordeling av foreldrepermisjon. Disse sakene er også viktige! Men det faktum at vi i Norge og Europa har gjort store fremskritt på disse områdene, betyr ikke at kampen er over. Fremdeles er det millioner av kvinner og jenter der ute som har behov for at vi også fortsetter å holde fokus på saker som lik rett til utdanning og arbeid, at vi fortsetter å jobbe mot barneeksteskap og omskjæring, bedre rettsvern for voldtektsofre og kvinner på flukt, for sikker tilgang til trygg og lovlig abort, sikker og trygg tilgang til prevensjon, og tilgang til forsvarlige helsetjenester, for å nevne noe.

La oss jobbe mot en bedre verden, for absolutt alle, ikke bare i dag 8. mars, men hver dag hele året!


Rapport fra Amnesty Internasjonal i anledning kvinnedagen 8. mars 2022


8 March 2022

Another 8 March. And still we have to march and speak up for women’s rights. For our right to control our own bodies. Our reproductive health. For our right to marry of our own will, when we come of legal age, and not as child brides. We have to fight for maternity wards and access to mid-wives, for contraceptives and informed family planning. We have to fight for access to free and safe abortion. For equal status and equal rights. For women’s health to be taken as serious as men’s health.

It is true that in some countries women has fought and won certain rights, and that on paper there’s equality between the genders. But putting something on paper, doesn’t mean it works like that in real life. Men are still over-represented in higher positions. Women are still over-represented in low-income jobs and part-time jobs.

Women are still being labelled “hysterical” if they speak in a loud voice and gesticulate, while a man is deemed to be “powerful”. Girls are still taught to be nice, gentle and caring, while boys are expected “to be boys”.

Women are still blamed for sexual assault, when in fact they are the victim. They are asked questions about their way of dressing, and their behaviour. Because they must have done something to attract a man’s attention. When in fact it’s the man who has shown no respect for the woman.

I write this while there is an ongoing war in Ukraine. A war set in motion by Putin. I cannot even start to imagine the horrors the Ukrainian people are living right now. Parents, grand-parents and children taking shelter from the bombing. Heroic women and men fighting the Russian army.

As we march for women’s rights on this particular 8 March, let us also march for all the innocent victims of this war, and every other war. We are women, we are able to carry two thoughts at the same time, and to multi-task!

International Safe Aborion Day

Today it’s the International Safe Abortion Day, and I wish it was not necessary to have such a day in the calendar, because safe abortion should be granted to every single woman in need of one. With that said, I hope putting focus on this will be for the good.

While progression has been made in some countries over the past few years, like in New Zealand, South-Korea, Argentina, Ecuador, Thailand and Ireland, other countries have taken a step backwards.

In Texas a new law, making abortion an act of crime, has been passed. Even if President Biden has promised to protect the clinics, this is a horrible development in one of the world’s most developed countries.

Religious and archaic cultural views should not dictate women’s right to control their own bodies and reproductive health. In line with the same outdated views, comes the lack of sexual education, education on reproductive health in general, and not the least, the lack of access to contraceptives.

On top of that, we can add a general lack of respect for women, and the fact that it’s the women who are punished to breaking the law by getting an abortion, while the perpetrator gets away unpunished.

The result of all this are tens of thousands of unsafe abortions every year. Women die during or after these procedures, approximately 22 000 every year! A lot more suffer from long term complications, and many are never able to get pregnant and have a child later.

This is not acceptable, it never was, and it certainly should not be acceptable in 2021!

We cannot keep silent about this. We have to keep fighting until every woman on this planet has the right, and the access to safe abortion and safe post-abortion care.


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Afghanistan, now what?

It’s been six weeks since Taliban took Kabul, in a swipe that surprised everybody, including American intelligence. The international soldiers, diplomats and others rushed out of the country. Yes, I know, President Biden had said that American troops would withdraw from Afghanistan within September 1st. But the plan, I assume, was not to hand the country over to Taliban.

Well, that is what happened, and now I wonder what will happen next. We do have some indications already. Women have disappeared from the streets, and those who are to be seen have put back the burqa. Female police officers are killed by the Taliban. Single women are forced to give up custody of the children to their in-laws. Women-only households are at even higher risk of being forced into marriage with Taliban soldiers. In many places girls’ schools are already closed, women are denied showing up at their workplace.

Activists, journalists and former soldiers are hunted down. The Taliban goes door-to-door to find them, and those who can hide or flee.

The UN estimates that 500 000 people will flee to the neighbouring countries before the end of the year. Worst case scenario they call it. I am, frankly speaking, surprised the estimation is not much higher. We are talking about a population of 38 million people.

The UN also says that 14 million people are at risk of starving to death. Normal people don’t have money. A lot have lost their jobs. The World Bank and International Monetary Fund has frozen the aid that has been flowing into the country for years. The World Bank states this is because they are worried about Taliban’s treatment of women. But who do they think a lack in health services and food shortage will harm first and foremost?

The army, the police force and all other people trained by the NATO troops, fled at the sight of Taliban troops. Was their training that bad? Or their moral that low?

The elected president and his government fled as well while they had the chance. Did they think that NATO would be present indefinitely to protect them? I ask, because I suspect that they were more interested in enriching themselves than actually govern and rebuilding the country.

I am worried about the situation, especially the situation for all the Afghan women and children. At least during the last 20 years, the literacy rate went up. A lot of girls got an education. Now it seems for nothing.

After hunting down Taliban and Osama bin Laden (who turned out to be hiding in Pakistan), there was a lot of shifting motives to keep NATO present in Afghanistan. Building a democracy, building schools, working for women’s rights, and the previously mentioned training of police and army.

I never felt it very honest, the reasons to stay on. At the same time, it seemed better for the Afghan population to keep the Taliban at bay. At least, the day all the troops left, we got the truth; the Americans didn’t stay on in Afghanistan for 20 years to rebuild the country or fight for human rights and women’s rights. They stayed “to keep America safe”.

Now, it seems to me that the world gives a damn about what is going to happen next. Statements like “we are worried about the situation” doesn’t seem very reassuring. I fear that as soon as the cameras are off and the journalists have left the room, world leaders let Afghanistan fall to the bottom of the to-do list.


Several of the articles listed here are used as sources.





International Women’s Day

As always, there are things to celebrate, and still battles to fight when it comes to women’s rights.

Let’s start with some good news:

Argentina changed its abortion laws in 2020, ending a total prohibition on abortion. Several other countries have also changed their abortion laws in recent years, like Ireland, Australia and New Zealand.

In Kenya, 40 clan elders have decided to stop child marriages and to end female genital mutilation and other forms of gender-based violence. This is important, and progress is made in other countries as well.

In many African countries, education on women’s reproductive health, family planning and access to modern contraceptives are on the rise. This in turn will reduce the number of (unsafe) abortions, and allows the women to take control over their own bodies and their own reproductive health.

Further, more than 100 nations reignite the vision of the Beijing Platform for Action, the most comprehensive roadmap for advancing gender equality.

Emmanuelle Charpentier and Jennifer A. Doudna were awarded the Nobel’s Price in chemistry. Kamala Harris was appointed the first female vice-president in the USA, and Gitanjali Rao was selected TIME Magazine first ever “Kid-of-the-year”, for her use of science and technology to promote social change. And I tell you, what a girl this is!

But despite progress, there are still battles to fight.

Honour killings, in particular a threat to girls and women, are still a widespread problem especially in South-Asia and the Middle-East. As of late, an Indian 17-year old girl was beheaded by her own father after he discovered she had a relationship with a man.

In India, as in Pakistan and Afghanistan and several other countries, women are often married off to the man who raped her. This is a horrific practice, and something that needs to end immediately.

In Poland, a country at the heart of Europe, and member of the European Union (EU), abortion is now prohibited. The law passed in parliament in 2020, despite large protests.

Abortion is also prohibited in the following European countries: Malta (also member of EU), Andorra, the Vatican and San Marino. A complete overview of the situation worldwide can be found here.

Both access to healthcare and education are under pressure during the covid-19 pandemic, and we have to make an effort so we don’t take many steps backwards now that progress has been made in many countries.

But even in western societies we now see family life returning to old stereotypes, where women take on a greater toll of housework, whether they are still working during the pandemic or not, compared to their spouses. We have to make sure that the years of 2020 and 2021 will not be the new norm, but still work for equality both in the domestic and professional areas.

We need to work to put an end to the misconception that girls and women are the property of men, unable to act on their own. Girls and women are individuals, fully capable of making their own decisions. No girl should be raised solely to be married off and being treated as a slave of the household and a birthmachine. This is why it’s so important to make sure they are given access to education.

We also have to work to improve the balance of representation of power, both in parliaments, but also in business corporations. Even in developed countries, men earn more, they own more, and they more often climb “to the top”. We have to get rid of the stereotype that men are better at making money, while women are better at taking care of the family. Men can be good caretakers, and women can certainly be good leaders.

I would like to end with a quote of Barack Obama, even if it would have been more appropriate for the day to quote a woman. Still, this one sums up the way forward pretty well.

“You may live in the world as it is, but you can still work to create the world as it should be.”

So let’s do that! In the spirit of all the women that has fought battles before us, and for all those coming after us.

Speak up, take action – and have a great day!

International Women's Day web banner illustration of woman hands holding each other in female symbol shape. Girl teamwork concept, modern flat cartoon outline arms.

Jeg er lei! – for nei betyr nemlig nei!

Jeg er lei av å høre at det er jenters ansvar om de blir seksuelt trakassert eller voldtatt. Jeg er lei av å høre at gutter/menn er ukontrollerbare vesner drevet kun av sitt seksuelle begjær.

For det er ikke sånn det er!

Nylig ble australske skolejenter bedt om å øke lengden på skjørtene sine for ikke å distrahere mannlige lærere eller forstyrre sine mannlige medelever. Snakk om vås!

Vi hører stadig historier om voldtektsofre som blir spurt igjen og igjen av tiltaltes forsvarer om hvordan de var kledd da voldtekten fant sted, om de var beruset, og de tenkte på hva slags signaler de sendte til gjerningsmannen. Igjen sier jeg, snakk om vås!

Det er kun en, og en alene som er ansvarlig for en voldtekt, og det er gjerningsmannen selv!

Nei betyr nemlig nei!

Satt på spissen burde jeg kunne gå naken gjennom byen uten «å be om» noe som helst! Det handler nemlig om respekt for andre mennesker. Det handler om respekt for andres seksualitet. Det handler om respekt og aksept av at andre ikke vil det samme som deg.

Selv om jeg flørter betyr ikke det at jeg vil ha sex. Selv om jeg har på meg et kort skjørt eller viser kløft, så betyr ikke det at jeg vil ha sex eller at jeg ønsker å bli tafset på. Og om jeg skulle være interessert i sex, så betyr det ikke at jeg er interessert i sex med hvem som helst.

Hvor vanskelig er det egentlig å forstå?

Vi jenter/kvinner blir fortalt fra vi er unge at vi må tenke på ditt og tenke på datt; hvordan vi kler oss og ter oss, hvor mye vi drikker, hvor vi går, og at vi helst ikke bør gå alene ute om kvelden og natten.

Hva blir gutter fortalt? At jenter er fritt villt? At nei egentlig betyr ja? At korte skjørt og utringninger betyr «vær så god, ta for deg!»??

Vi lar vær å anmelde overgrep fordi vi risikerer å bli beskyldt for «å ha lagt opp til det selv». Sier kvinnen nei til sex, så sier hun nei.Å prøve å skyve skylden over på offeret er ikke en tilnærming til saken som advokater og dommere burde ha i vår tid. Vi lever i 2016, ikke i 1616!

Når skal vi ta på alvor at vi må oppdra våre sønner etter en annen standard? Lære dem at nei faktisk betyr nei. Innprente dem at selv om en jente flørter, så er det ikke ensbetydende med at hun har lyst til å hoppe til køys. At selv om en jente går i kort skjørt, så er hun verken «hore» eller lett på tråden, og det er ikke fritt frem for å tafse!

Gutter og menn har ikke en seksualdrift som er umulig å kontrollere. Langt derifra. Men jeg tror enkelte har et kvinnesyn som tilhører en svunnen tid, og som de for lengst burde ha kastet på skraphaugen.

Å formane jenter/kvinner igjen og igjen at det er vi som skal være forsiktige, ikke «friste» de «stakkars» mennene, er å ta tak i problemet i helt feil ende. Istedet må vi få bukt med illusjonen om kvinner som et forlystelsesobjekt.

Som mamma til to gutter vet i alle fall jeg hvor jeg skal begynne denne kampen.

Eller kanskje ikke?

“Thinking you’re changing the world by incessantly posting political stuff on facebook is like thinking you’re getting laid when you jerk off to porn.”

Jeg fant dette sitatet på facebook, og synes faktisk det fortjener en liten kommentar.

Nei, jeg tror ikke jeg forandrer verden ved å poste politisk relaterte saker på facebooksiden min. Så naiv er jeg ikke. Men jeg synes det er viktig å spre nyheter om saker jeg bryr meg om, enten det er væpnede konflikter rundt omkring i verden, kvinners rettigheter (eller som regel mangelen på sådanne), brudd på ytringsfriheten og historiene om alle dem som forfølges fordi de tør å motsi en statsmakt de er uenig med.

Å la humla suse og late som om verden er et fredelig og rolig sted der alle lever i harmoni og velstand har i alle fall ingenting for seg. Min mening er at når flere vet, så er det flere som engasjerer seg og legger press på både egne og andre myndigheter for at de skal endre kurs.

Jeg tror også at mange av oss som legger ut politisk relatert stoff på våre facebooksider har et sosialt og politisk engasjement utover dette, enten det er lokalpolitikk, organisasjonsarbeid eller veldedighetsarbeid. Vi ønsker å åpne øynene til våre medmennesker, få dem til å se at ikke alle har det like fredelig og lever i en velstand som vår egen. Vi ønsker at alle skal få muligheten til å leve sitt liv i fred og fordragelighet uansett hvor i verden de bor, og vi ønsker at alle vi som allerede gjør det setter pris på det og ikke tar det for gitt.

For meg er det også viktig å få og evt videreformidle informasjon om hvorfor konflikter oppstår og hvordan de håndteres. Vestlige land er tungt inne i flere av disse konfliktene både militært og diplomatisk, på godt og vondt. Når vi sender avgårde egne soldater til en konflikt på andre siden av kloden, vil jeg gjerne vite hvorfor vi gjør det og hva det er meningen de skal bidra med der.

Når mennesker strømmer i hopetall til Europa i skrøpelige farkoster og med livet som innsats, så synes jeg vi skylder dem å sette oss inn i forholdene der de kommer fra. Ikke bare hva som skjer akkurat idag, men også hvordan situasjonen har oppstått. Om vi ikke setter oss inn i faktiske forhold har vi svært liten forutsetning for å hjelpe dem, enten det er her eller der.

Jeg tror ikke jeg forandrer verden med facebookpostene mine. Ikke jeg alene. Men jeg tror at når flere vet, så er det mer fokus på verdens urett og flere kritiske øyne rettet mot både egne og andres mydigheter.

Når mange krever at ens egen utenriksminister skal ta opp barbariske straffemetoder i møter med ministre fra land som bedriver dette, da er det vanskelig å la dette temaet ligge uten å få stempel som svekling eller feig. Når man i ulike internasjonale fora setter søkelyset på ytringsfrihetens kår i land med streng sensur, så er ikke dette bare fordi det er «politisk korrekt» å gjøre det av demokratiske ledere. Det er også en forventning fra de menneskene som har valgt dem og som følger med på hva de gjør.

Sist, men ikke minst, ved å poste politisk relaterte saker på facebook, kan jeg håpe å inspirere andre til å engasjere seg i en sak eller fler. Jo flere engasjerte mennesker som finnes der ute, jo større er sjansen for at vi faktisk klarer å jobbe mot en bedre verden med færre konflikter, bedre vern om den enkelte borger og mindre fattigdom og sult.


Fredag 15. august, på Indias uavhengighetsdag, talte statsminister Narendra Modi til folket. Blant de emnene han berørte i talen sin var vold mot kvinner og det enorme antallet voldtekter som finner sted i India hver dag. Modi oppfordret sine landsmenn til å ta ansvar for sine sønner og deres handlinger, istedet for å legge skylden på ofrene. Det er et viktig punkt Modi berører her. I et land som India, der menn for forrang fremfor kvinner, der sønner har alle rettigheter mens døtre har få, sitter tradisjonell tankegang godt fast. En voldtatt kvinne er selv skyldig, fordi hun må ha villedet mannen til å begå denne handlingen. En voldtatt kvinne er en skam for familien, en sosialt utsøtt. For en mann som begår en voldtekt er det lite sannsynlig at han rammes hverken av sosial fordømmelse eller av en rettskraftig dom. Familien beksytter sine døtre som best de kan, for selv bare et dårlig rykte (sant eller usant) kan gjøre det vanskelig å få dem giftet bort. Den sosiale kontrollen med kvinner er nærmest total, og de har liten mulighet til å bevege seg fritt, bortsett fra mellom hjem og skole og evt jobb. Få av dem er ute etter mørkets frembrudd uten følge av et eller flere familiemedlemmer, fortrinnsvis en far eller bror. Sønner kan bevege seg fritt og kommer og går når det passer dem.

Jeg synes det er modig og flott av Modi å ta opp disse emnene. Seksuell trakassering er et tabu emne i India, selv om det rammer nesten alle landets kvinner. De trakasseres på gaten, på bussen, på arbeidsplassen, selv i sitt eget hjem. Det er flott at det tas skritt for å bevisstgjøre landets politi og rettsvesen om kvinners rettigheter, ikke minst rettighetene til egen kropp. Til dags dato er indiske kvinner mer å regne for en manns eiendom (først tilhører hun farem, deretter ektemannen) enn selvstendige individer. I noen familier og samfunnsklasser er dette i endring, men dette er en prosess som tar tid, og det er bra at myndighetene nå tar noen grep i håp om å få fortgang i prosessen.

Hva som er spesielt med Modis tale er at han sier rett ut av foreldrene må ta ansvar for sine sønner. I det ligger at de må oppdra sønnene til å respektere kvinner, både kvinner i egen familie, men også ukjente kvinner de møter. Og her er vi ved sakens kjerne. Vi som er foreldre, uansett hvor vi bor i verden, har alle et ansvar for å lære våre barn respekt for andre mennesker, både kvinner og menn. Voldtekt er ikke et ukjent eller ikke-eksisterende problem selv i vårt samfunn. Vi har også sønner som voldtar og døtre som lider på grunn av dette. Selv i vårt samfunn følger skammen en kvinne etter en voldtekt. Mange er de som mener at en kvinne ikke er helt uten skyld om hun er offer for en voldtekt. Selv i vårt rettssystem hører vi at kvinner må bevise sin uskyld i en voldtektssak, mer enn jeg har inntrykk av at overgriperen må. Spørsmål om kvinnens bekledning og oppførsel stilles for å frita mannen for ansvaret for overgrepet. Her er vi på like ville veier som India. Et offer for en voldtekt har aldri “delt skyld”. Kort skjørt, påvirket av alkohol, flørtende oppførsel, ja vel. Det legitimerer aldri at en mann kan ta seg til rette og ta henne med makt. Om kvinnen sier nei, da sier hun nei. Dette er noe vi må lære våre barn, både jenter og gutter. Om det er noe som i fremtiden vil få meg til å føle meg totalt mislykket som forelder, så er det om en av mine sønner skulle begå en voldtekt. Da har jeg totalt mislykkes i å lære ham respekt for andre mennesker. Etter min mening er noe av det viktigste vi kan lære våre barn at alle mennesker har krav på å bli behandlet med verdighet og respekt, uansett kjønn, opprinnelse eller religion.